Simply Move Your Life Into Full Blown Growth

How often do you think about how your life should be?

Do you visualize a different experience or a better lifestyle because you are comparing yourself to someone else's life? Think of all the time that is being wasted and holding you back from enjoying your life, robbing you of your peace. There is power in calmness, and you cannot be fulfilled in life until you retrain your thinking to experience life as it is now, right this very moment, your life, and not someone else's life.

It's our failures, our setbacks, our disappointments, our celebrations, our recognition, all our experiences in life that we use to develop our mindset. If you have developed bad habits always wishing for something someone else has, you are missing out on your life. You cannot grow to reach your full potential in your career, your finances, or your relationships.

We are creatures of habit, and if your habits are not good, then you are not capable of making the right choices and decisions. So how do we change these bad habits and replace them with good habits? It's not easy, and it's hard as climbing up a mountain, but if you want a better you, a better life, then you need to start being intentional about being uncomfortable while you are changing your mindset.

You already have everything you need inside of you, the strength, the patience, and the hope to do more and be more, but the difference between you and those lives you dream you had is the initiative. The initiative has your vision of what you want your life to look like so that you can set goals, create a plan, and act on your plan by taking steps towards your goals. This is the difference between settling for less and staying the same or having more or being better. The initiative is the 'key' to your growth process. It's passion + action!

I used to feel stuck in my career, my marriage, and my life in general. For whatever reason or maybe no reason at all, I never thought I was worthy enough to experience what was right in my life. I spent a lot of time thinking about how my career, my marriage, my life should be, and usually comparing it to someone else's, wishing I had that too. Sound familiar?

Instead of blaming myself, I spent time blaming everyone else or come up with excuses for not having the life I thought I should have. Why is it we are always quick to blame someone or something? Because it's easier to blame someone or something other than ourselves, it's too raw and too painful to blame ourselves. We can't expose the truth, that it's all me!

Honestly, after several years, I realized a negative mindset was holding me back from reaching my full potential. I was continuously beating myself up because I felt I was not capable of a better marriage, a better job, a better lifestyle. I spent lots of time trying to prove my worth in my career and my relationships with my spouse, my family, and friends. I wore myself out by driving myself so hard when all I needed to do was stop long enough to understand my worth started with me and my thoughts. I realized the outcome would be a better self so that I could radiate a happier life to those who are essential in my life. If I am happier with me, I will attract happier people around me!

I was like the snow in my snow globe. I was trying to find where and who I was supposed to be — continually floating around and around with no clear direction of where I headed, no goal, no plans, and no expectations other just waiting to see where I landed in my life. I waited for life to happen to me, instead of me making my life happen for me. I wasn't in control of myself and my destiny. I was too busy focusing on everyone else's life to even begin to know what my life was about and to know my purpose. Why was I created, and why am I here? If we stop long enough to search our hearts, identify our talents, pray and listen for God's answers, then maybe I will discover me, 'Why'!

I thought of every excuse in the book of why I couldn't take steps to improve myself, to keep learning so that I could keep growing. I had become so complacent, stuck. If this sounds like you, then let me reassure you don't need to have this feeling, but you need not let life happen to you, you need to get in control of where you're heading so that you will experience your life as it should be.

One day I decided I knew I had to do something about it, the way I was feeling, and I knew no one could do it for me; it had to be me. I took one long hard look in the mirror and saw myself staring right back at me, the one person that knew better than anyone that I was capable of more and I was worth it, I was worth more. It was an awakening for sure, my epiphany!

It's those darkest of times when we feel for whatever reason we have hit rock-bottom, and we can't get up, but in all actuality, we are being groomed to be a better version of ourselves. We tell ourselves this is dark times because we are allowing our emotions to control our destiny. I knew I needed an affirmation and to speak it out loud. I am growing, I am learning, and I am rising to the best times of my life! I will stumble, I will fall, I will fail, but that's okay; it's part of the process!

We are not promised another day only this moment. During these moments, can we catch a glimpse of our potential ability, and it's essential we stop long enough to embrace every moment and push away those times of darkness or anything that is getting in our way! Our life is our journey that no one else can experience for us. And those other people you dream of having their career, relationships or stuff, you did not experience their journey. You have no idea what they went through or endured to get to where they are or have what they have.

I know for a fact career, and life can be hard as heck and more people than not struggle with falling, failing, setbacks, disappointments, but it's the ones who don't stay down and get back up that continue on their path of growth. They choose to be happy; they decide to focus on their moments and seize every one of them. They are grateful, they are thankful, and feel blessed, and they indeed are. They are the light during dark times.

I tell myself a lot, "It's only worth it when you earn it"! It is what keeps me positive and not leaning into the negative emotions that can so quickly try to define me, precisely who I am not supposed to be. I want to be who I was created to be, and I hope you do too!

That one day, I decided to act. I knew I had to start somewhere to take my journey on a different path, so to change my mindset to a positive one. I began to identify my goals and create a plan that I wrote down on paper and kept it near me so that I could see it every single day. I knew I wanted to develop a habit of taking care of my body, my mind and spirit first so that I could develop a consistent routine every single day. It was tough and 'yes' there are days I stumble, but when I fall or fail, I get right back up and keep going, because I know I am being groomed for the best version of myself! I won't stop long enough to dwell on the moment I stumble because I live one moment at a time, and I know my next moment will be better than the last.

We don't have the time to dwell or zap our energy on our failures and setbacks, we learn from them. We instead keep moving our bodies, our minds, and our spirits, higher and higher. We save our energy to reach our goals and celebrate our positive outcomes. We will enjoy and celebrate all our moments, the good, the bad, and the ugly to keep growing. It is our journey of life!

I feel it's safe to say, much of our time is spent allowing our emotions to guide us, to control us. We need to take ownership of ourselves and get into the core of our spirit to find real authentic truth of who we indeed are, stop and appreciate who we are, where we are, and what we have now at this moment. When we decide to meet up with our negative feelings and emotions, a process that you have agreed to meet these discomforts face to face with yourself, so you can be who you were created to be. Appreciate this honesty for all it is and embrace the fact that you are worthy of more, and you are a masterpiece!

Not until we take hold of ourselves and understand who we indeed are, can we move forward into growth. Being self-aware is taking the time to self-reflect consistently and will allow us to move forward into massive growth. Self-awareness is the key to a positive mindset, and from this, will peace come into your life. You will be able to feed off the energy and thrive from this newfound knowledge. Can you feel the anticipation of something amazing is about to happen? When you step up, be courageous, and show off your tremendous character and spirit of passion, you will enthusiastically push toward achieving your goals!

Don't be ashamed or feel defeated when days aren't going as planned. You need to acknowledge you are having negative thoughts, making excuses, or placing blame because once you recognize these things, you will start to pay close attention to how you think, how you feel, how you react, and act during all your moments. To have a life full of peace, we don't allow excuses, negative thoughts, or placing blame hold us back, but instead, we stop to acknowledge and then refocus. It is your path to growth. Reaching your full potential through a feeling of growth is impressive and will get your adrenaline flowing. You will experience newfound energy!

Accept this moment of who you are and what you already have because you already have what you need. You need to stop and self-reflect. You will be better positioned to move forward toward higher goals, higher achievements, and a higher spirituality, where you become the best version of who you were meant to be and morph into your full potential.

Remember, this is an ongoing journey, but it is so worth it because you are worth it! You will begin to see your business grow, your career grows, your relationships improve, and life will become a joy because you earned your worth on your terms. You will no longer focus on what others have or where they are in life and career because you won't have the time; you'll be too busy loving your life!

I am here to help you to pursue your best life.

xoxo Pam